I want to be a woman who lives totally abandoned to the first commandment: to...– Misty Edwards (via mademoisbell)
Protector vs. Predator
We’ve all known that girl or been that girl. The moment a new man comes into her life *poof* she goes all Houdini and puts on a disappearing act. We don’t hear from her, she can’t hang out, and she’s nowhere to be found until the breakup and then she needs you like her next breath. Now I’m not dogging on my own sex, as much as providing a warning. The girl who...
Marry your best friend. I do not say that lightly. Really, truly find the...– N’tima (via kevinidentity) All this but so much more than this. (via romansfive8)
I had a thought this morning. During the course of our entire friendship and dating relationship, my boyfriend has made it a point to get to know me. “well, duh Brooke…isn’t that the point?” Listen, I mean he has really worked get to know me. He delves a little deeper. He asks about internal motivations. He wants to know my soul. Ladies, is a man working hard to uncover...
above-so-below: “i found a guy that didnt want me to change. he wanted me to grow and become a better ME, not a different me. and that is important. ” -sharee so true.
Things That Matter
I think we become trained culturally as women to prioritize and value things that are completely insignificant, and overlook things that should catch our attention. Some of us are aware of the this insidious cultural conditioning. Others aren’t. I told my boyfriend last night “You are the best surprise I’ve ever had.” I didn’t expect this relationship. I didn’t...
Today my step brother is getting married. I’m setting up & running the sound for the ceremony. Using my own sound system. I’m ridiculously proud of this fact. I also feel like I’m becoming my boyfriend (he’s an audio/video tech). But he’s like a beast that works from 8pm til 4am rigging amazing rooms at a huge hotel. It makes my sound system antics look like...
Stories From The Brooke: Gentle →
How did I recognize gentleness? Hm. That’s a loaded question because it may look differently for each man, and some men can fake being a “gentleman” for a time, because they realize that behavior serves their selfish desires. Is he humble? Does he repent to you? Does he try to defer to you? Does he give or is he always taking? Gentleness goes hand in hand with selflessness. A...
It’s as if I walked into the land of Oz And encountered a Technicolor world For the first time the bright hues Landed upon my black and white eyes The vibrant blues captivated my life The world in all its color, so alive So fresh and exhilarating to every sense Pouring into my lungs, infusing my breath Each color giving my eyes a new scent Where before they were bereft And the oxygen! Have...
Rough it sexy. Rough stubble on his face, rough kisses on the lips…rough is considered passionate and manly. But you know what is sexier? Gentleness. Sometimes men are rough because they are selfish and demanding, and sometimes they take what’s not theirs.That’s not sexy. A man who is gentle is considering more than himself when he touches you. When he shaves to make sure he...
Pros and Cons of Long Distance Relationships
This may be a tad premature and legit LDR folks will probably roll their eyes at my “newb” post on long distance relationships, being that I’m 2 months into this thing, but I’m gonna go ahead and post my wizened ideas on this topic. So when we started this relationship at the end of Dec., I thought it wouldn’t be a big deal, cause we have never lived in the same city...
The only way out of the labyrinth of suffering is to forgive.– John Green, Looking for Alaska (via kari-shma)
Coffee Scrub How-To (this CHANGED my skin)
Let me preface this by saying I know nothing about science or skincare other than being a 33 yr old woman who has had crappy skin most of her life. In my teens I had cystic acne that hung around til my mid-twenties and when my hormones changed, my skin changed. It cleared up (hallelujah), but my pores got much bigger and I got wrinkles. I have irish skin that tends to be blotchy/pink and uneven...
A Few Thoughts About Quality
So I bought a new guitar. I’ve been planning this purchase for over a year, excited about being a performer with a “serious” guitar, one that plays and sounds like a dream. One that doesn’t embarrass me when I perform with it, one that compliments my voice and style and makes me proud to call it my guitar. I’ve researched and looked and played several models and...
Those who love you are not fooled by mistakes you have made or dark images you...– Alan Cohen (via sarahveatch)
I am having so much fun making my handsome man gifts for V Day and they are looking AWESOME (I’m totally bragging). But I can’t post a photo because he will see. After V Day, k?
Haven't done a "survey" type blog in ages...
VALENTINE’S DAY ASK SPECIAL 1: Do you have a crush at the moment? absolutely. 2: Have you ever been deeply in love? i think so 3: Longest relationship you’ve ever been in? 3 mos 4: Have you ever changed for someone? not really. not in large or unhealthy ways at least. being with someone changes you, for good or for bad, so be choosy. 5: How is your relationship with your ex?...
Both worry and stress reek of arrogance. They declare our tendency to forget...– Francis Chan, Crazy Love (via withonefootinafairytale)
If you ever think to yourself (regarding your significant other ) “Gee, I...– Me
Relationships and Mystery
I’ve been thinking lately about how many single folks don’t even consider the possibility of starting a relationship with a friend. I’m not going to bother discussing the “I don’t want to ruin our friendship” argument (hint: it will eventually sour). I want to address the idea that romance is really only exciting and desired when in a relationship with someone who isn’t known quantity. Listen, I...
A relationship without trust is like having a phone with no service. And what do...– (via mystandards)
Some thoughts on mystery in relationships
I’ve been thinking lately about how many single folks don’t even consider the possibility of starting a relationship with a friend. I’m not going to bother discussing the “I don’t want to ruin our friendship” argument (hint: it will eventually sour). I want to address the idea that romance is really only exciting and desired when in a relationship with someone...
therabbitholeintooblivion asked: Your post about dating your best friend is sort of where i'm at in life. It's good, It's bad and It's horrible timing. Yet I still want to date him. Do you have any additional words of wisdom of how to make the most of this mess I've gotten my head into?
please, oh please date your best friend
Why? Because it’s just so much fun. It is a blast, so easy, comfortable,and free of pretense. I don’t analyze everything I say or do. And I don’t mean comfortable in a “I’m a big slob and put no effort in the relationship” kinda way. I mean comfortable in the sense that I am at rest and peaceful when I talk to him, when we are together. Not that he doesn’t make my pulse race or say things that...
The used and abused
It feels kinda weird writing a blog on this topic, because I’ve not been the target of abuse much in my life. The times where I’ve been aware that I was in abusive situations, by the grace of God, was able to end or extricate myself from them. That being said, I’m no stranger to abuse. We live in a culture where abuse is widespread, regardless of race, economic standing,...